SuperBetter friend questions

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If you could take5minutes to answer these questions, and let me know how I'm doing as a friend, I'd appreciate it! 

• Why does this friend think you rock? 
• What’s your unique brand of sparkliness? 
• What does s/he/they admire about who you are and how you show up in the world?

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Why does Heidi think you rock?
You're sensitive. You are responsive to your own feelings and the feelings around you, a lot like my sister is. In a world where people are taught to hide their feelings and not care, not offer up any of themselves, you let bits of the tenderness of your heart show through. It makes you more real to people like me, and is the beginning of what sets you apart, enabling a lot of your other distinctive qualities, like your perception and your thoughtfulness.

What’s your unique brand of sparkliness?
Your ability to look at things and see what's there, and to keep looking at it even when you think you know it - that's rare. I don't do that, most people don't either. It's a kind of wisdom I can't emulate because I don't know how you do it.

What does Heidi admire about who you are and how you show up in the world?
You and maeritrae and elucreh were the people who showed me how this trusting internet buddies thing worked. I did not used to be a very trusting person, when I look back. Not being afraid of people is not the same thing as trusting them, and if it weren't for you guys I might still not know that difference. So thanks for that.

You guys offered me bits of personal information and asked me for personal information in return. You showed me how to feel out those boundaries, where the people who taught me how to person were pretty suspicious. I developed healthy boundaries with you guys because we were part of [Unknown site tag]'s commenters, and held to standards of respectful discourse. We all grew up on the internet together. It was sort of a second childhood, much better than the first one.

I should make you a friendship bracelet. :D

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The way I keep looking at things is related to my interest in the thing(s). Like love, I am constantly monitoring my ability to love Janet. "Have I shown her love lately? When was the last time I showed her I loved her? How did she respond to that?"

Or deities, "What do I know about Athena? Thor? Tyr? Issa? What can I learn from them? How can I be the best versions of them?"

Or friendship, MLP:FiM is great for that. The ponies, any of them, are never characterized based on past actions. The Mane 6 are welcoming of alternate!Sunset Shimmer in the Rainbow Rocks film. They know she's starting over and isn't bad. Even Luna is accepted now.

I am not satisfied with answers in general. I know I have a void of knowledge fueled by a love of learning. I hope this has helped you to "see" my brain. And I can pick it apart further if needed. :)

Thanks for commenting! :D

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Or you know my, Destroyers of Universe icon? Or the replicators of Stargate SG-1? I tear my beliefs, thoughts, ideas down to the smallest bits of them: I am my own destroyer of Universes. I am the SG-1 team working to disrupt the replicators signals.

The down side to this is, a vote of no-confidence in myself. Always questioning things means questioning all the things all the time and letting doubts in. It's not a perfect system.

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It does not sound like it would be ideal, no. Well, not unless you had good answers preloaded when the questions come, but that would negate the flexible open-mindedness of the ability.

At least you've found a way to use a weakness as a strength? You made your lack of self-confidence into a way to challenge your perception filters for the universe. You should write a book on how to do that so that scientists can use their powers of angst and social awkwardness for SCIENCE!!

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I miss your posts. :(